THE WISER YOU BECOME THE MORE CONFIDENCE YOU GAIN
Personality development is indispensable to success. It refines your skills and makes you confident. It helpful for everyone as it brings positive changes in the attitude, performance and overall personality.
For personality development, you need to follow some of these points like accept yourself gracefully, praise and accept other people the way they are, always be ready to help a lending hand, think positive, talk positive, stay positive, learn to speak efficiently in an intelligent manner, pay attention to what others are saying, maintain personal hygiene, improve your personal appearance, practice positive affirmations and develop inner confidence.
You see what is happening all around us. The world is one of influence. Part of our energy is used up in the preservation of our own bodies. Beyond that, every particle of our energy is day and night being used in influencing others. Our bodies, our virtues, our intellect, and our spirituality, all these are continuously influencing others and so, conversely, we are being influenced by them. This is going on all around us.
Now, to take a concrete example, a man comes you know he is very learned, his language is beautiful, and he speaks to you by the hour but he does not make an impression. Another man comes, and he speaks a few words, not well arranged, ungrammatical perhaps. All the same, he makes an immense impression. So it is evident that words alone cannot always produce an impression. Words, even thoughts, contribute only one-third of the influence in making an impression, the man two-thirds.
If you are a good listener than you will automatically become a good speaker. If your health is at an optimum level, then your energy level will also be high. Whatever your inner qualities you have, people would first judge you by your looks and then only look into your other qualities. It doesn't matter what others think of you, the only thing that matters is what you think of yourself. And that what others see in you. Also, remember that confidence comes knowledge so soak up knowledge from every source you read newspapers, magazines or pieces of information available on the internet and gain knowledge. What you call the personal magnetism of the man – that is what goes out and impresses you.
Coming to great leaders of mankind, we always find that it was the personality of the man that counted. Now, take all the great authors of the past, the great thinkers. Really speaking, how many thoughts have they thought? Take all the writings that have been left to us by the past leaders of mankind; take each one of their books and appraise them. The real thoughts, new and genuine that have been thought in this world up to this time, amount only a handful. Read in their books the thoughts they have left to us. The authors do not appear to be giants to us, and yet, we know that they were great giants in their days. What made them so? Not simply the thoughts they thought, neither the books they wrote nor the speeches they made, it was something else that is now gone, that is their personality. As I have already remarked, the personality of the man is two-thirds and his intellect, his words are but one-third. It is the real man, the personality of the man, that runs through us. Our actions are but effects. Actions must come when the man is there; the effect is bound to follow the cause.
What use in polishing up the outside when there is no inside? The end and aim of all training are to make the man grow. The man who influences, who throws his magic, as it were, upon his fellow-beings, is a dynamo of power, and when that man is ready, he can do anything and everything he likes; that personality put upon anything will make it work.
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